My philosophy

Things are getting more or less back to normalcy at work. The mess created by "unplanningly" evacuating all the stocks from our Thailand warehouse to Singapore warehouse has been cleared and finally we can have more free time to start our cycle count from tomorrow. I am also going home at the normal hour of 5~6pm from this week and I am planning to start my exercise regime...maybe next week. I am still struggling to lose weight which is exceptionally difficult this time round due to my age, I guess. And having a hubby who is skinny by nature and loves to go for buffet dinner once every week is definitely not helping at all...Can't blame him actually...I love food too...*sigh*

I thought it's quite a pity that Demi Moore is splitting up with Ashton Kutcher...I sort of used her marriage (older woman with younger man) as a role model for my own when I remarried again to someone almost 10 years younger a year after her. She is like the ultimate example for all the cougars out there! And she is so damn good looking! But he still cheated on her with a much younger woman...so who said age doesn't matter?

To be honest, I had my reservations and I had my doubts initially. But after being happily married for 5 years and knowing that my hubby at this very moment still loves me and treasures me is good enough for me. Not that it won't hurt or it won't matter to me if later on my hubby cheat on me or something. I mean men are men, it's proven that they will be more easily succumbed to infidelity than women. So, if they will cheat, they will cheat, it doesn't matter if your hubby is younger than you or much older than you. My philosophy is: I would rather marry a younger man and have him cheat on me than to marry an old man and have him cheat on me too. Get it? It will hurt anyway, so why not do without the additional unjustified feeling of having the much older husband cheat on you, right? At least this is how I see it.

Another thing, I can take it much better if my hubby cheat on me with someone entirely new than to cheat on me with his ex-girlfriend or someone he knows as a friend all along. Explanation: If my husband cheats on me with someone entirely new, at least I know that the time before he met this someone new, he was loving me truly and solely. I will treasure those memories and may or may not leave him, depending if the cheat was just a fling or not and if he is repentful and wants me back or something...But if he cheats on me with someone he knows all along or his ex-girlfriend, then how  can I trust that the time when he was with me, he wasn't thinking of her and loving her? So, those times when he was with me will not be worth remembering at all! And I will not forgive him...totally out of the question.

That is why, I am so fed up with N who likes this boy knowing that he is still not over his ex. This is plain stupid. But I guess every young, naive girl will have to go through this at least once in her life, get hurt, cry it out and then learn from it. But she doesn't know that as a mother, I get hurt as well when my daughter gets hurt...*sigh*

Older Women, Younger Men.

After watching those amazing stories last night about amazing baby deliveries, I am totally inspired about life. Nothing is impossible, isn't it? Like love. Nothing is impossible when it comes to LOVE.

I have finished watching the whole series of Sex And The City and I was really touched with the endings to all the girls. I cried a lot. I cried when Charlotte and Harry finally got their adopted baby from China, I cried even more when Samantha had finally opened her heart to Smith and accepted his love. Smith was the sweetest boy! (And he's so good-looking and sexy!) He stood by Samantha through her fight against breast cancer, through chemotherapy, not forsaking her even when she had lost her hair and her sex drive. Such a darling! See? Older women can find love with younger men, much younger men even! And it doesn't happens only in the movies! Good examples? Demi Moore and her 16 years younger husband! Real life examples? OK. My cousin, who is 9 years older than her husband and they have been happily married for more than 10 years now. And I. My husband is also 9 years younger than me. We have been together for almost 4 years and have been married for 2. And these 4 years have been the happiest time of my life. :) So don't be afraid to fall in love! Even when the man is younger.

I know most people are actually quite cynical about older women and younger men relationships. Older women and younger men relationships only work when the woman happens to be a Hollywood star like Demi Moore who is so damn good-looking and rich, don't everybody think so? Even for Demi Moore, she has not been spared from the gossips columns which are still sort of "predicting" when she will break up with her young husband! After my initial struggle, I figured out that all sorts of relationships have a 50-50 chance of working out or breaking up anyway. Whether it's a older woman with a younger man or the other way round, nobody can predict what will happen in the future. A younger man may after a few years think that his older woman is too old and start cheating with younger women. But older men do cheat for the same reason that their young wives are not young enough, don't they? So when that happens, a woman in a relationship with a younger man can proudly say that she had it good while it lasted but a woman in a relationship with a older man can only feel sorry for the youthful years she had wasted on a old man. Get it?

OK. Then there are 2 more very important plus points for woman to be in a relationship with a younger man:

1) Women usually reach their sexual peaks in their 30s and men in their 20s. See how Samantha enjoyed sex with Smith? Mine has never been better! ;p

2) Women outlive men. So I figured that I will probably die around the same time as my hubby or even earlier. I won't have to be a widow!

There you go! 3 cheers for all women in relationships with younger men! Stop worrying and start enjoying life! :D